Have you ever planned to achieve something and then failed? Or do you wish to succeed and then find yourself blocked along the way with no hope to come over? If you have known this negative experience, don’t give up hope because there are many ways to follow in order to make it in life. Here, I would like to share with you the view about the secret of success through the speech delivered by AJAYI, OWOLABI BADMUS, a lecturer at University of Burundi at the seminar organised by RCCG, Tabernacle of David Parish in Bujumbura-Burundi on 31 January 2010 under the theme: “LEARN THE SECRET OF SUCCESS IN 2010” but I wish the secret should be forever. The speech was delivered as follows:
“Good afternoon, Distinguished Ladies and Gentlemen. I am happy to be part of this important programme. It is a very important initiative and I commend and congratulate the organizers of the seminar on their achievement.
My task is here to speak and advice the participants to learn the secret of success in 2010. This cannot do without giving you what I think, in my opinion, are the secrets of success. First and foremost, I believe that nothing is secret. Kin Hubbard says: “there is no secret about success. Did you ever know a successful man who didn’t tell you about it?” Therefore, what I am going to say here this afternoon is what you have heard before. This is a reminder.
The next step is to understand what success is. “Success is a journey, not a destination.” -Ben Sweet Land. From this quotation, it is clear that success involves what you want, where to get it, how to get it and when to get it. Oxford Student’s Dictionary of current English defines success as “the fact that you have achieved what you want; doing well and becoming famous, rich, etc.” This is a general notion of success; this is what most people take success to mean. However, success goes beyond that. As far as I am concerned, I believe success is realizing your dream in such a manner that you do not have a sense of any loss whatsoever, and you are happy and confident to flaunt it.
Success is achieved when a stretch goal is met overcoming failures, problems and difficulties by conscious effort and by application of capabilities, resources and methods. It is to be differentiated from luck, chance and doing what comes naturally without effort. I hope you take these not-so-secrets to heart and realize your dreams-
Like I said before, this is not a lecture. Rather, it is a reminder to all of us . Therefore, I will not take much of your time beating about the bush. Let us look at TEN SECRETS OF SUCCESS. They are explained briefly here.
1 How you Think is Everything.
Always be positive. Think Success, not failure. Beware of a negative environment.
This trait has to be one of the most important in the entire list. Your belief that you can accomplish your goals has to be unwavering. The moment you say to yourself “ I can’t…”, then you won’t. I was always given the advice” never say I can’t” and I’d like to strike those words from the dictionary. I’ve found that from time -to-time my attitude waivers. A mentor of mine once said” it’s ok to visit pity city, but you can’t stay and there comes a time when you need to leave”. Positive things happen to positive people.
2. Decide upon Your True Dreams and Goal: Write down your specific goal and develop a plan to reach them. Write down my dreams and goal? Develop a plan to reach them? You mean like a project plan? Yes, that’s exactly what this means. You may have heard the old adage: A New year’s resolution that isn’t written down is just a dream, and dreams are not goals.
Goals are those concrete, measurable stepping stones of achievement that track your progress towards your dreams. My goal is to start a school of my own. What are your own goals? So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains And we never even know we have the key. According to Hamilton Wright, “The question for each man to settle is not what he would do if he had means, time, influence and educational advantages; the question is what he will do with the things he has. The moment a young man ceases to dream or to bemoan his lack of opportunities and resolutely looks his conditions in the face, and resolves to change them, he lays the corner-stone of a solid and honorable success. “This implies that you can dream and achieve your dream with whatever you have at your disposal. You don’t need to be big before you become very effective. After all a tiny mosquito can make it pretty difficult for ten persons to sleep in a big room! Remember Proverbs 29:18 where there is no vision, the people perish.”
3. Take Action.
Goals are nothing without action. Be like Nike and “just do it”. I took action by reaching out and started attending the primary school. Every day I try to take some action towards my goals. It may be small, but it’s still an action. Have you taken action towards your goals? This a very important question which needs to be answered by any one who wishes to succeed in life.
4. Never Stop Learning: Go back to school or read books. Get training & acquire skills. Becoming a life-long learner would benefit us all and is something we should instill in our children. It’s funny that once you’re out of school you realize how enjoyable learning can be. What have you learned today? The recipe for perpetual ignorance is: be content with your knowledge, be satisfied with your opinions.
5. Be Persistent and Work Hard: Success is a marathon, not a sprint. Never give up. I think every story of success I read entails long hard hours of work. There is no getting around this and there is no free lunch. But, if you’re working towards something that you’re passionate about, something you love- then is really work?
6. Learn to Analyze Details: Get all the facts, all the input. Learn from your mistakes. I think you have to strike a balance between getting all facts and making a decision with incomplete data- both are traits of successful people. Spend time gathering details, but don’t catch ‘analysis paralysis’.
7. Focus Your Time And Money: In the word of Lee , I.., “ The ability to concentrate and use your time well is very thing if you want to succeed in business—or almost anywhere else for that matter”. Don’t let other people or things distract you. Remain constantly focused on your goals and surround yourself with positive people that believe in you. Don’t be distracted by pessimists or tasks that are not helping you
Achieve your goals. This is because while a pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity, an optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty. Choose optimists as friends.
8. Don’t Be Afraid To innovate: Be different. Following the crowd is a sure way to mediocrity. Do not follow the path. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail. Nelson Mandela says and I quote ‘ I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, bug he who conquers that fear. “Follow through on that break-out idea you have. Ask yourself “What would I do if I wasn’t afraid?”
9. Deal And Communicate With People Effectively: No person is an island. Learn to understand and motive others. Successful people develop and nurture a network and they only do that by treating people openly, fairly and many times firmly. There is nothing wrong about being firm- jus don’t cross the a-hole line. How do you deal with people?
10. Be Honest And Dependable: Take responsibility, otherwise no lesson on success will work out well.
Clarify What You Really Want
Succeeding requires a strong intention to succeed. “How to” is secondary. Get inspired first. If you really want something you’ll invent amazing ways to achieve it.
To be successful, you must have a clear compelling vision of what you want from life. Your vision performs both a directional and a motivational function.
The purpose of your coherent vision of a desirable future is no focus you on those things you could do now to bring that future state about.
The Power of Passion
Failure never “happens”, it’s your choice. If you believe that failure is not a choice, you’ll never fail. Test new ideas, learn from what works, and what doesn’t, and then apply these lessons to your next expriment, test or idea. Keep doing this until you are satisfied with.
Don’t give up when things go wrong. Every costly lesson is going to result in exponentially greater success in the long term. Seek out the positive in every bad situation and ask, “What can I learn from this? How can do it again more intelligently?”
COCA Principle of Achievement
The Trap of Fixation on Success
Success is nearly a magical idea for most people. In his Book The Active Life, Parker Palmer points out that in the west fixation of people on success discourages them from risk taking “ because it values success over learning, and it abhors failure whether we learn from it or not. It always wants to win but win or lose, it inhibits our learning. If we lose, we feel so defeated that learning is a hollow consolation … It traps us in a system of praise or blame, credit or shame, a system that gives primacy to goals and external evaluations, devalues the gift of self- knowledge, and diminishes our capacity to take risks that may yield growth,”
Writes Parkers Palmer, the author of The Active Life.
The Tao of Success- Balance Action and Reflection
Creating success involves creating and a delicate and ongoing balance between two somewhat opposing forces – reflection of where you are now and action of pushing toward where you need to go. This balance between reflection and action is very similar to the balance of Yin and Yang in the Tao philosophy.
Stumbling blocks to success include acting too often without a clear sense of direction or spending too much time reflecting without creating outcomes. Truly successful people developed the ability to move effortlessly and quickly from reflection to action and back again. They know when action is necessary and they take action promptly (Yang) so that they can make progress, earn feedback and move back to analyzing their position (Yin) and acquiring the knowledge that they need to be able to move back to action.
Apply 80/20 Principle
The 80/20 Rule says that 20% of your activities will account for 80% of your results, and vice versa.
Progress means moving resources from low-value uses. Your ability to choose between the high-value and the low-value activities is the key determinant of your success in life and business.
Success isn’t determined by genetics. It’s about persistent, consistent action.
Having dreams and passion is not enough. If you wish to achieve something, don’t let life just “happen” to you. Set stretch goals and take action. If you wish to live your dreams, act from a sense of urgency. There is no success without action.
Don’t wait, attack to get things done. Ignite and catapult yourself to greater action and achievement.
Facing reality is one of most important rules in both life and business. Whether in life or business, those who are able to face reality and acknowledge truth are usually successful. Yet, it is often difficult to face reality and so much easier to avoid the truth as it may hurt, embarrass, be painful or self-deflating. Yet, facing this truth is what makes success in both life and business so simple.
Getting the Best of Students
Benjamin Zander, a celebrated music teacher, a conductor of the Boston Philharmonic, and the author of book called The Art of Possibility, has an effective strategy for getting best out of his student. In NLP terms, this strategy is celled ‘Creating inevitable Success’. On the first day of class Zander tells his first year students that they all get an A. There is only once condition. Their first assignment is to write a letter to him-dated on the last day of class-explaining why they deserved the highest grade.
Zander believes there are several beneficial aspect of this dramatic role reversal:
1. It is great confidence builder for his students.
2. It eliminates the often counterproductive snipping that people frequently engage in when they think only a few will win.
3. Student invariably knock themselves out for that A because they do more to learn their own personal A than they would ever do for the traditional A given by a teacher.
In conclusion, there are no hard and fast rules concerning success. What has been said so far are merely pieces of advice. Every man is the architect of his own fortune. The easiest thing to be is you. But the most difficult to be is what others want you to be. Just have a good attitude. Scott Hamilton says that the only disability in life is a bad attitude. This means that even if you are disabled physically you are not disabled. But you are a disabled person if you have a bad attitude. My prayer for all of you here is that God, the unmovable Mover, the Cause of all causes grant you all your heart desires.
May He pass you in all examinations of life.
Thank you for your attention and God bless.